Loss

I just watched Imitation of Life, the 1959 version. As usual I cried like a baby at the end. For those that don’t know this movie, it’s worth renting. It’s about a white woman and her daughter who take in a black woman and her light skinned daughter. The black daughter rejects her mom, cause she wants to be white and decides to pass. Long story short, the black woman dies and the daughter, Sara Jane, runs up to the casket and shows out! Sara Jane screams and cries “Momma, Oh Momma, I’m sorry momma!”

It’s a life lesson. When my grandfather and father made their transitions, I didn’t cry at their funeral. I cried when I found out my Pop had left us. I cried at my dad’s hospital bed when he died. I didn’t shed a tear at the funeral. I knew that I had done all I could for the men in my life. While they lived, we shared good and bad times. When they became sick, I was there to help take care of them, run errands; make their final days comfortable.

Stevie Wonder sang in These Three Words, “When was the last time that they heard you say, mother or father, I love you, and when was the last time that they heard you say daughter or son, I love you.”

It’s important to give your loved ones, all the love they can stand while they are able to appreciate it. Be there, call them, kiss them goodbye and always, always tell them how much you love them.

Peace & Love